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ASSERTIVENESS
Four Forms of Assertion
1. Basic Assertion:
A simple direct expression of your feelings, thoughts or rights without violating those of others.
2. Empathetic Assertion:
A paraphrase of your understanding of another's feelings, thoughts or rights along with the expression of your own.
3. Constructive Feedback:
A statement pointing to a single specific thing the other person did or said along with how their actions or words affect you.
4. Escalating Assertion:
An increase in the intensity of your message as the result of persistence from others:
| a. | By repeating your assertive statement using one or more of the above forms |
| b. | By an honest statement of the probable consequences If they continue to persist |
| c. | By a statement that shifts the focus from the content of your disagreement to your perception of the process that's going on between the two of you. |
