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LIFE WORK ASSIGNMENTS
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Thinking - Feeling as Ways Couples Make Judgments
| THINKING | FEELING | |||
| DO YOU: | ||||
| 1. When looking at problems between the two of you. | prefer to resolve the problem by following a set of principles which should apply to effective relationships | tend to want to rely on your personal values to tell you how the problem can be worked out | ||
| 2. Look at past events in your relationship. . . | more with understanding for how the events came to happen the way they did | with sentimental memories, since the feelings come back easily when you think about them | ||
| 3. Approach a new activity you're interested in. . . | with calm, keeping your eye open to see how the system works | with excitement and enthusiasm, at least inwardly | ||
| 4. Become more concerned. . . | when equal attention and treatment for both of you is violated` | when the needs of one of you gets overlooked | ||
| 5. In working out decisions with each other. . . | like to follow past examples of how you've worked things out, to be consistent | prefer to go with what seems most important in this situation | ||
| 6. Tend to be cautious about trying something new. . . | if the benefits of the new way aren't carefully spelled out | if the closeness of your relationship might be changed in some way | ||
| 7. If your partner does something which is bothersome to you. . . | tell them about it | tend to let it pass | ||
| 8. When you do express criticism to your partner. . . | state it clearly and methodically, and let it go at that | watch closely how they react to what you say | ||
| 9. Feel most happy when your partner. . . | is proud of you for something you've accomplished | expresses appreciation and warmth for who you are to them |
