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    Situations for Couples Which Demonstrate Extraversion - Introversion

    DO YOU:

    1.  Usually like to spend time. . .

    bullet alone with your partner.
    bullet together with friends.

    2.  When with others, frequently like. . .

    bulletbeing with close friends who you already know well.
    bulletspending time with new people.

    3.  When with others, frequently like. . .

    bulletletting others start things.
    bulletto get things started.

    4.  Tend to feel most alive. . .

    bulletwhen contemplating or reflecting on things.
    bulletwhen in action doing things.

    5.  Employ your strengths. . .

    bulletinwardly, sometimes surprising your partner when you reveal ideas and thoughts.
    bulletopenly, so that others know easily your strengths and weaknesses.

    6.  Often show excitement. . .

    bulletgradually, many times only when alone with a new idea or something you've just read.
    bulletquickly, with an enthusiasm that others easily pick up on.

    7. Usually engage in discussion. .

    bulletin detached way, but you're able to comment (if asked) on the process that's just been occurring during the conversation.
    bulletIn an involved way, often being so involved in what's being said that you miss the ongoing process of how the conversation has been going.

    8.  Frequently become aware of your feelings with others. . .

    bulletonly after you've left the situation and are by yourself.
    bulletAt the moment the feeling arises with the other person.

    Situations for Couples Which Demonstrate Sensing - Intuition

    DO YOU:

    1.  Tend to enjoy moments when you can show your. . .

    bulletpractical common-sense and ability to see the realistic outcome of things.
    bulletimagination, with new ideas or dreams for how things could be better.

    2.  In looking at alternatives in decision making. . .

    bullettend to go with the tried and trusted ways that have proven to be effective.
    bulletlike to brainstorm, coming up with something that hasn't been thought of before.

    3.  During formal situations, such as introductions to other people. . .

    bulletaccept the conventional way of interacting in that situation.
    bulletfeel uncomfortable unless you can find a way to break the formality somewhat.

    4.  In telling a story or an anecdote. . .

    bulletpresent it the way you heard it.
    bulletgive the story your own flavor without changing the basic idea

    5.  While listening to others. . .

    bulletlike it best when people say exactly what they mean with no ambiguity.
    bulletenjoy the subtleties of personal expression where meanings have to be implied.

    6.  While listening to others. . .

    bullettend to trust that their words can be relied upon as an expression of what they're feeling.
    bulletfind that it's important to listen beneath a person's actual words in order to perceive what they feel.

    7.  In remembering an important event. . .

    bulletusually recall in some detail what exactly happened.
    bullettend to remember mostly the over-all picture of the event and why it was important to you.

    8.  When working on a project. .

    bulletvalue following through on the plan by making each part of the design work efficiently.
    bulletenjoy thinking about what's needed and working on the over-all plan.

    Thinking - Feeling as Ways Couples Make Judgments

    DO YOU:

    1.  When looking at problems between the two of you.

    bulletprefer to resolve the problem by following a set of principles which should apply to effective relationships
    bullettend to want to rely on your personal values to tell you how the problem can be worked out

    2.  Look at past events in your relationship. . .

    bulletmore with understanding for how the events came to happen the way they did
    bulletwith sentimental memories, since the feelings come back easily when you think about them

    3.  Approach a new activity you're interested in. . .

    bulletwith calm, keeping your eye open to see how the system works
    bulletwith excitement and enthusiasm, at least inwardly

    4.  Become more concerned. . .

    bulletwhen equal attention and treatment for both of you is violated`
    bulletwhen the needs of one of you gets overlooked

    5.  In working out decisions with each other. . .

    bulletlike to follow past examples of how you've worked things out, to be consistent
    bulletprefer to go with what seems most important in this situation

    6.  Tend to be cautious about trying something new. . .

    bulletif the benefits of the new way aren't carefully spelled out
    bulletif the closeness of your relationship might be changed in some way

    7.  If your partner does something which is bothersome to you. . .

    bullettell them about it
    bullettend to let it pass

    8.  When you do express criticism to your partner. . .

    bulletstate it clearly and methodically, and let it go at that
    bulletwatch closely how they react to what you say

    9.  Feel most happy when your partner. . .

    bulletis proud of you for something you've accomplished
    bulletexpresses appreciation and warmth for who you are to them

    Judging - Perceiving as Ways Couples Deal With the Outside World

    DO YOU:

    1.  In thinking about a future situation when you'll be together. . .

    bulletlike to plan how you'll spend your time
    bulletprefer to wait and do what feels good at the time

    2.  When there's a decision that has to be made. . .

    bulletfeel anxious until the decision has been agreed upon
    bulletfeel anxious making decisions unless you're sure at the alternatives have been considered

    3.  Keep a list of things to do. . .

    bulletmainly because that's a natural way to organize your day
    bulletonly to be certain you don't forget things you'd probably overlook otherwise

    4.  Promise to do something. . .

    bulletonly if you know you'll be able to carry through on your promise
    bulletwithout hesitation, but sometimes don't have time to get it done when you said you would

    5.  Feel you are at your best. . .

    bulletwhen following a structure and order so that emergencies can be avoided
    bulletin dealing with unexpected circumstances that come up

    6.  If you've planned to meet someone at a certain time. . .

    bulletusually find yourself ready to be there when the time comes
    bulletoften find yourself still getting ready at the last minute

    7.  Like to deal with several tasks that need to be done. . .

    bulletone at a time, finishing the first before starting another
    bulletspontaneously, depending on which type of activity strikes your fancy

    8.  React to frequent changes in your daily routine. . .

    bulletas frustrating interruptions
    bulletas stimulating

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